Grammar: Genteelism

Posted January 18, 2016 by Kathy Davie in Author Resources, Grammar Explanations, Self-Editing, Writing

Revised as of
9 Feb 2023

It’s a Victorian reaction, genteelism. After all, one can hardly mention leg if a delicate flower of womanhood is within earshot! And do consider how this fragile beauty would swoon if she were to hear of . . . someone . . . sweating!

Today, our genteelisms are politically correct what with mentally challenged, height challenged, weight challenged, __ disabled, etc.

There are also euphemisms for those words or phrases it would be rude to say in mixed company.

Why “Genteelism” is Important to Writers

The concept of genteelism is one which can be applied to characters in a book. Do you want your character to sound like a pretentious idiot or a bureaucrat? Use a genteelism to reinforce that impression. Is your character more of an upperclass sort? Use a word that is less, well, vulgar, my dear.

“Indeed, a good synonym for ‘genteelism’ in the business-writing context is ‘bureaucratese’. And probably no one wants to sound like a bureaucrat when they write . . .” Busch

One way to determine if a word is “appropriate” is to look it up in the dictionary. If its entry includes usage labels such as “nonstandard” or “substandard”, it won’t be a word used by the more prestigious class within a community.

“The point about genteelism is that it indicates primness and snootiness rather than any real dignity of thought and character” (Hitchings).

Genteelism has also influenced how we use I and/or me (see the post on “Me, Myself, and I“) with too many of us believing that one should only use I, as me is only used by the ignorant. And in truth, it’s simply another shibboleth we need to lay by the wayside.

Do consider reading Joan Acocella’s “The English Wars:
The battle over the way we should speak
” for the New Yorker. It’s an interesting and fun article on the idea of genteelism and refers to a number of slang dictionaries which might be of interest.

Grammar Explanations is . . .

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Genteelism
Definition: A type of euphemism in which a common word is replaced by a word considered more “refined” or “proper”.

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Genteelisms
Common Term “Genteel” Term Common Term “Genteel” Term
boxer pugilist groin lady parts
the lower extremities
bull gentleman cow leg limb
die lose one’s life
no longer with us
pass away
rest in peace
pregnant enciente
increasing
interesting condition
false teeth dentures prostitute lady of leisure
lady of light virtue
lady of the evening
woman of ill-repute
woman of the night
fire let go
let someone go
smell odor
fuck sexual intercourse
sleeping with __
spit expectorate
going to bed retires sweat perspire
gleam
Today’s Politically Correct Genteelisms
blind visually impaired preindustrial
modernizing
developing countries
disturbed unbalanced mentally the old
elderly
senior citizens
lay off reduction in force the poor the disadvantaged

The Not-So-Genteelisms

We tend to think of the genteelisms as applying to high society versus lower classes when actually these euphemisms change depending upon different historical periods, on whether the replacements are being used by parents, children, or teens, etc. Something to consider when setting up your character’s status or setting.

Common Term Less-Than-Genteel Common Term Less-Than-Genteel
ass booty
bum
caboose
cheeks
nether cheek
tush
menstruation monthly
monthly friend/visitor
my aunt came to visit
women’s troubles
condom French letter
rubber
pee spend a penny
sniff a rose
see a man about a dog
fix my face
answer the call of nature
die bite the dust
bought the farm
dirt nap
feet first
go the way of all flesh
kick the bucket
snuff it
pregnant knocked up
eat for two
fart breaking wind
pass wind
release
prostitute business woman
callboy
‘ho
working girl
fat big-boned shit doo-doo
poo-poo
number two
drop a bomb
fucking act of darkness
effing
fracking
freaking
haul (one’s) ashes
hide the sausage
horizontal mambo
make love
make the beast with two backs
toilet bathroom
WC
loo
ladies
gentlemen’s
john
can
washroom
restroom
comfort station
commode
little boys room
groin barn door
family jewels
undercarriage
vomit drive the porcelain bus
get sick
ralph

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C’mon, get it out of your system, bitch, whine, moan . . . which words are your pet peeves? Also, please note that I try to be as accurate as I can, but mistakes happen or I miss something. Email me if you find errors, so I can fix them . . . and we’ll all benefit!

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Resources for Genteelism

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Busch, Simon. “Are Your ‘Good Manners’ Letting You Down?.” Writing Skills.com. n.d. Web. n.d. <http://writing-skills.com/good-manners-letting/>.

Fowler, H.W. A Dictionary of Modern English Usage. Oxford University Press, 1926. <https://amzn.to/3lhBf5D>. Print.

Hitchings, Henry. The Language Wars: A History of Proper English. Farrar, Straus and Giroux: 2011. <https://amzn.to/3JUMwmX>. Ebook.

Kidder, Tracy & Richard Todd. Good Prose: The Art of Nonfiction. New York: Random House, 2013. p 108. <https://amzn.to/3lpdyIT>Print.

Nordquist, Richard. “Genteelism (Language).” Grammar. n.d. Web. n.d. <http://grammar.about.com/od/fh/g/Genteelism.htm>.

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